Dear Me, Dear You: Lonely Nights

You may feel lonely, but trust that you are never alone. Don’t believe that little voice in your head whispering venom. People do love you, people do care. Maybe you don’t have a lover, or a partner right now, but you have friends. Maybe your friend circle has dwindled, but the ones who have stayed, love you fiercely. It’s the quality of your circle, not the size that matters. You still have family. Maybe you no longer communicate with your biological family, but you have the family you created, comprised of the people whom you have met as you walk this world. Don’t get hung up on defining connection solely on romantic love. And don’t diminish romantic love to only be valid if you find “the one”. A soul mate is not just a romantic partner. A soul mate is the best friend who always has your back. Soul mates don’t always last forever; sometimes, they are in our lives for but the briefest moment in time, giving us a valuable lesson and then leaving as abruptly as they came.  Your greatest lover is and will always be, yourself. Just today, I thanked a woman I follow on Instagram for inspiring me with the love she shows herself. Not having a partner to buy her flowers, or cook her romantic dinners, she does this for herself. She takes herself on dates, speaks to herself in her love languages. She reminded me, that even in the loneliest nights, I will always have myself. I hope I reminded her, that even if she feels alone, she matters to some stranger on the internet, whom she inspired to love herself a little more.